Middle Seat – Common Niceties and Meaning Moments – Bound to Others

Middle Seat – Common Niceties and Meaning Moments – Bound to Others

It turns out that your neighbor on the plane/bus/train (or the person sitting at the next table at the coffee shop) is a very, very chatty tourist. Do you try to switch seats, go for a non-committal brief small talk, or make this person your new best friend?

Given that we live in a world fast forwarding to human disengagement, it is important for me to make eye-contact, respond to, engage with and generally interact in a meaningful way. If we view each being as a whole person who matters, then it is contingent on us, to acknowledge this in our interactions with others. If we do not see ourselves as bounded beings, but rather as interconnected beings, then we would more likely approach others in a way that honours their human dignity. If we think of ourselves as beings in dialogue, then we will seek, uncover and encourage dialogue with others. Let’s hone our common niceties.

Each moment has a meaning potential. To discover this potential, we need to really be in the moment.

“This emphasis on being attuned to meaning potential is similar to my emphasis on mindful awareness (e.g., Wong 2012b) and the current popularity of mindfulness in positive psychology (e.g., Kashdan & Ciarrochi, 2013). This hypothesis predicts that the more meaningful moments we have experienced, the greater the level of perceived meaningfulness and life-satisfaction.” ~ Paul Wong

So let’s pay attention to one another, let’s really listen, let’s really engage. Deeper life-satisfaction awaits!

Here is one of my favourite quotes from Cloud Atlas ~ Sonmi 451


“Our lives are not our own. From womb to tomb, we are bound to others, past and present.”


Read my earlier post Break the Silence.



Kashdan, T. B., & Ciarrochi, J. (2013). Mindfulness, acceptance, and positive psychology: The seven foundations of well-being. Oakland, CA: Context Press.

Wong, P. T. P. (2012b). From logotherapy to meaning-centered counseling and therapy. In P. T. P. Wong (Ed.), The human quest for meaning: Theories, research, and applications (2nd ed., pp. 619-647). New York, NY: Routledge.

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