If Spanish be the Food of Love Speak On!


Today I happened to be speaking with a native Spanish speaker and he was saying how Spanish is a very direct language, whereas English is a language more suitable for poetry. So Spanish speakers are as the crow flies and English speakers meander descriptively, with words having many possible meanings. Interestingly, I then happened on two articles which spoke about the finding that people in Spain talk more about love and use more positive language than other countries studied. The Spanish used more words like “love” and “laughter” than other places. So maybe we all need more of this kind of positivity. In a play on Shakespeare: If Spanish be the Food of Love Speak On:

“If music be the food of love, play on,
Give me excess of it; that surfeiting,
The appetite may sicken, and so die.”

William Shakespeare, Twelfth Night

See the MailOnline: Spain’s the Place to Live (I so agree if this is the case)

BigThink: Spanish is the Language of Love

Image: Los Gigantes, Tenerife, Spain from Wikimedia Commons


Unleashing Your Potential | My Journey to Releasing my New Avanoo Program | Calming the Storm: How Meaning Making can Change your Life


I am delighted to announce my new partnership with Avanoo Avanoo (pronounced “Avenue”) comes from the words Ava, which is Finnish for “Open”, and Noo, which is Old English for “now”. So Avanoo means being open to all of your potential right now! It is also a road we travel as we move forward in life.

In 3 minutes a day, Avanoo offers dozens of personalized 30-day programs ranging from Happiness to Productivity from renowned experts on those topics.

I am working currently on my program called: Calming the Storm: How Meaning Making can Change your Life. I will publish here my progress. For now I have almost completed all the Daily Noos, (pronounced”Daily News”), and I give you the titles of 20 here:

1. “This too Shall Pass”

2. Finding Something to Live for is Critical

3. The Question of Meaning in Life

4. Love Can Come to the Rescue

5. Putting your Focus on a Project

6. The Power of your Mind-Set

7. Finding Meaning from Suffering

8. Turn Suffering into a Challenge

9. Learning Self-Compassion

10. Suffering can be an Inspiration.

Today 29 November, I am adding some of the new Daily Noos that are now ready:

11. Filling our Unique Life Space

12. What is Your Choice of Response?

13. Appreciating Life Right Now

14. Your Watershed Moment

15. We are Whole as We are. We are Alright.

16. The Experience of Love. “The Salvation of Man” (Viktor Frankl)

17. Are you Your Own Best Friend?

18. Is it Ever OK to Give up Hope?

19. It’s Time for Self Transcendence.

20. Igniting Humor.

For more please visit Avanoo once my program is launched. I will keep you posted about the launch date. This program is intended for those who are facing life challenges or storms. I am aiming for a pre-Christmas or New Year launch date. In the mean time do go along to Avanoo to view amazing programs offered by experts from across the globe, to help you unleash your potential and overcome challenges and storms.

Influenced predominantly by Dr Viktor Frankl, Dr Teria Shantall, Mindfulness, Jon Kabat-Zinn and others, Buddhism and Zen thinking.

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Binding Judgment | Beatific Smile no Black and White

Binding Judgment | Beatific Smile no Black and White

brett and carol

Does it ever make sense to judge a book by its cover — literally or metaphorically? Tell us about a time you did, and whether that was a good decision or not.

“…the men I have noticed, the ones with the particular blend of nuances that speak to me with a silvery cord, a unique alchemy,” (from an earlier post: List Lesson | Things I Remember).

The first time I saw him, I just knew. A kind of knowing you have little control over. I think it happens on many levels. Pheromones definitely come into play, as well as mostly subconscious linkages that hook into a kind of emotional, unspoken secret, that which attracts one to another. It has happened this way a handful of times and in my experience, only happens this many times in a lifetime.

It was his height, at least 6’3″ that first caught my eye. A lovely construction of the face and the beatific smile. Just as one can imagine a thousand ships launched for Helen of Troy, so this particular construction launched my ship. His hands, sculpted, like the hands of David. And, that smile! In matters of the heart, the rational mind does a kind of disengage. So, even though one knows on an intellectual rational level, that this may not be workable for you, it is overridden by the primitive brain, the basal ganglia do “get it” first. Researchers at the MIT Picower Center for Learning and Memory in the Feb. 24 issue of Nature, 2005, found that the primitive areas in the basal ganglia, do seem to have a greater role in high-level thinking processes than thought before. However, it takes some time for the cerebral cortex to catch up.

By the time my cerebral cortex caught up, it was too late. The pathways were already carved. Did the original response to the judging of the book cover link to a good or bad decision? I prefer not to think in these matters in black and white. Love is something beyond these climes and for me, was a valuable and life changing experience, a kind of honesty, never mind the fallout. In the words of the timeless Viktor Frankl:

“Love is the only way to grasp another human being in the innermost core of his personality. No one can become fully aware of the very essence of another human being unless he loves him. By his love he is enabled to see the essential traits and features in the beloved person; and even more, he sees that which is potential in him, which is not yet actualized but yet ought to be actualized. Furthermore, by his love, the loving person enables the beloved person to actualize these potentialities. By making him aware of what he can be and of what he should become, he makes these potentialities come true.” 
― Viktor E. Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning

Did I grasp the “other” innermost core? Yes, I did. Did this person actualise his potentialities? No, he did not. I can still glimpse him in others, many years later, a particular walk, height, bald head, build, but never again that beatific smile.

Brett and I with our precious teacher Geshela Damcho

Brett and I with our precious teacher Geshela Damcho

Images courtesy of Carol Knox.

Brett Pelser: May he find peace. I discovered this notice in the Sunday Tribune of 2007. PELSER Brett, father of Trinity-Ann. Service at Glenwood Community Church, Glenwood on 28/03/2007. Now I know when to remember his passing.

To see some information about the Venerable Geshe Damcho Yonten, see the Lam Rim Buddhist Centre.

Frankl and the Sustenance of Love | More Luminous than the Sun


What sustained Frankl, gave him courage, or even inspired him during the time of his suffering?

An example from Frankl will illuminate this question. It occurred on an early morning march to the work site. Amidst shouting, and stumbling over rocks in the cold of the morning, the man marching next to him whispered: “If our wives could see us now! I do hope they are better off in their camps and don’t know what is happening to us.”(Frankl, 2008:48) Frankl began to think of his wife, through icy stumblings his mind clung to her, he heard her voice, and saw her encouraging look. He describes that her look was “…then more luminous than the sun which was beginning to rise” (Frankl, 2008:48) He was transfixed by the words of poets and thinkers who had pointed to the truth. “…That love is the ultimate and highest goal to which man can aspire…the salvation of man is through love and in love. (Frankl, 2008:49). In this way Frankl was transported to another world as he communed with his beloved. He realised that love goes beyond the physical person and that it is a deep spiritual experience of the inner self. This communing with and visualisation of his beloved wife, sustained Frankl.



Frankl, V. (2008). Man’s Search for Meaning. Great Britain: Rider.

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