Meaning Making

The UnValentines of Single People | How Does it Feel? | My Unness


The unvalentine of year after year of single life. How does it feel to be uncoupled, unlinked, unrelated? Are you undone? For me I am definitely in a state of unness. Singleness by choice, a kind of pristine space albeit from time to time an alone one. This is the time, including the Christmas and New Year period, when this unlinkedness comes to the fore. It is not so much the lack of a link to a partner that causes from time to time a sharp ache, a sense of separateness so acute to be an actual heartache. The yearning is for a community, a relatedness, rather than a relationshipness. The bygone days of sharing, preparing meals, talking in the kitchen. Nowadays I no longer cook for myself. Some studies have shown that eating alone is not good for you. I find it depressing, so I would rather eat in a distracted way, while doing other things, almost in passing.

These simple, heartwarming moments can yawn like a chasm, like any Grand Canyon in their missingness. I do the stuff of meaning making, focusing on projects, meditating, increasing spiritual practice, but it is true that this unness does not sit as comfortably as at other times. I am especially aware at these times to try to focus on positive things, to steer away from undoings, to avoid certain spaces where couples and families congregate. How do you cope with the life phase of the fifties, when children are grown and you are alone? What do you do to get closer to fine?

Even a short walk on the beach helps me. I love to watch the people and the deep presentness of the dogs enjoying the sand, sea, air and of course the kelp. I sit and smile, pushing my hands and feet into the sand, a simple and great joy, looking out to sea and at the ghost mountains in the distance.


And yesterday this sign made me smile too:


Photos taken by Carol Knox

Image from Wikimedia Commons


Unleashing Your Potential | My Journey to Releasing my New Avanoo Program | Calming the Storm: How Meaning Making can Change your Life


I am delighted to announce my new partnership with Avanoo Avanoo (pronounced “Avenue”) comes from the words Ava, which is Finnish for “Open”, and Noo, which is Old English for “now”. So Avanoo means being open to all of your potential right now! It is also a road we travel as we move forward in life.

In 3 minutes a day, Avanoo offers dozens of personalized 30-day programs ranging from Happiness to Productivity from renowned experts on those topics.

I am working currently on my program called: Calming the Storm: How Meaning Making can Change your Life. I will publish here my progress. For now I have almost completed all the Daily Noos, (pronounced”Daily News”), and I give you the titles of 20 here:

1. “This too Shall Pass”

2. Finding Something to Live for is Critical

3. The Question of Meaning in Life

4. Love Can Come to the Rescue

5. Putting your Focus on a Project

6. The Power of your Mind-Set

7. Finding Meaning from Suffering

8. Turn Suffering into a Challenge

9. Learning Self-Compassion

10. Suffering can be an Inspiration.

Today 29 November, I am adding some of the new Daily Noos that are now ready:

11. Filling our Unique Life Space

12. What is Your Choice of Response?

13. Appreciating Life Right Now

14. Your Watershed Moment

15. We are Whole as We are. We are Alright.

16. The Experience of Love. “The Salvation of Man” (Viktor Frankl)

17. Are you Your Own Best Friend?

18. Is it Ever OK to Give up Hope?

19. It’s Time for Self Transcendence.

20. Igniting Humor.

For more please visit Avanoo once my program is launched. I will keep you posted about the launch date. This program is intended for those who are facing life challenges or storms. I am aiming for a pre-Christmas or New Year launch date. In the mean time do go along to Avanoo to view amazing programs offered by experts from across the globe, to help you unleash your potential and overcome challenges and storms.

Influenced predominantly by Dr Viktor Frankl, Dr Teria Shantall, Mindfulness, Jon Kabat-Zinn and others, Buddhism and Zen thinking.

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Title Competition – Creating a Course in Meaning Making | Meaning Unfolding – Anyone?

I am creating a course around Meaning Making or Meaning/Purpose Unfolding. There are those who say that a lack of meaning is a crisis of our current times. I would like to develop a catchy title, something like:

Meaning in Uncertain Times

The person who develops the best title will get a free copy of my ebook: How to Reduce Stress. I have until Saturday 16th to finalise my title.

I would really appreciate the input of my wordpress reading community. Take a look at the tags to get some ideas.

Also see my post Provocation to Meaning

Thanks so much in advance.

Back of the Queue – PHD in Psychology – Mindfulness and Meaning Making – an Existential Analysis #Logotherapy

Back of the Queue – PHD in Psychology – Mindfulness and Meaning Making – an Existential Analysis

Is there something you’ve always wanted to do, but never got around to starting (an activity, a hobby, or anything else, really)? Tell us about it — and tell us about what’s keeping you from doing it.

Yesterday a friend made a suggestion that I perhaps apply for funding to do a PHD full time.I have looked at this option many times in the past, but it has just been too expensive. Thinking about South Africa’s huge need for PHD’s, I have resolved to make funding applications, once I have a potential supervisor. My areas of interest span, coaching, psychology, & philosophy. I am especially interested in Logotherapy and would want to complete the Online courses with the Viktor Frankl Institute of Logotherapy , (I have already completed the introductory course). This, however, will also add to my costs.

I am going to jump in the deep end. If anyone knows of funding opportunities for PHD study with the emphasis on #Logotherapy, I would be most grateful to hear from you. The title above is deliberately broad and I have already refined more detail in my areas of interest.

Please send good juju. Thanks.